Do you feel stuck? Like an observer in your own life?
Do you feel like you can’t do this anymore? You can’t go to the work every day just hoping that something will change?
Do you feel like like you waste your life and your dreams?
That’s the mindset you need to change your life now!
Before you keep reading, we need to talk about a few things first.
1. Make time for reading this.
This post will take time to read – plus you need time to think, write and act on some things. Don’t read it while rushing somewhere.
If you don’t have the time now, bookmark it to read later or at the weekend.
2. Changing your life isn’t easy
If it were, we all would be doing it. But that’s a topic for another day.
But it’s difficult. It takes a lot of discipline and willpower. Good thing there are ways to make it easier. Let’s see a couple of favourite videos on willpower and discipline.
Willpower is like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets.
Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most.”Abraham Lincoln
3. Changing your life is like falling off a bicycle.
It’s painful and embarrassing.
But sometimes, it’s necessary to make your life better. You just HAVE to break some eggs to make an omelette.
4. This is not an overnight process.
That would be nice, huh? Sticking for it for 12 hours and that’s it! You get your dream life!
Or maybe not so sadly. If it was a 12-hour process, I don’t think it’d matter that much.
To change your life, you need to change your daily routine.
Because, even if you don’t like what you do every day or even if you feel like you don’t do anything, this is still a routine. Your routine.
And to change your life, you’ll have to change it. But inertia will try to prevent you from doing it. (Newton was on to something, after all! )
So to help a little bit, I have a little challenge for you. Follow your new routine for 30 days. Only 30 days. Don’t focus on anything after it.
If it helps you, count down the days from 30 to 0. If you feel like it, go down to the comments and write how many days are left. Or get a calendar and cross the days until the 30 days are gone.
After the first 30 days, what do you think it’ll happen?
5. You need to act on it.
It’s easy to say you want to change your life now. Something happened and triggered you to search for it.
It’s easy to say now that you’ll do anything to change your life.
Do you think it’ll be that easy in a week from now when you’ll be working all day and the only thing you’d need is a burger and staying in bed all day watching Netflix?
I guess no.
Again, though, there are ways to deal with it. My favourite one? The 5-second rule!
Ready to start?
Let’s start with most important thing:
Maybe it sounds like just a fancy word, but it’s NOT. I don’t believe there are enough words to explain how important it is.
You can’t change unless you are ready to.
So take a deep breath, hold it and when you let it out, let go anything that drags you down!
Starting the reboot
Okay, first let’s divide the reboot into the basic sectors of our lives:
- The relationship we have with ourselves
- Personal Development
- Personal Development
- The relationships we have with others
- Friends/Significant Other
Now comes the hard part. You’ll have to evaluate your life and decide what you want to keep and what you want to throw out. What you should focus on for the next months – or even years.
Keeping A Journal
I know it doesn’t sound that important, but it is. Again, it’s a let out for every messed up thing that happened during the day.
Go to a bookstore and buy a journal you like. Or if you don’t want to pay for one, just get a notebook and keep it only as a journal. Writing in a journal daily has a lot of benefits that you’ll discover while writing.
I used to believe that it doesn’t work, but I was so wrong! Give it a chance and you’ll see that you’ll feel calmer.
Start with guided meditation; I believe it’s more effective for beginners – judging from my experience. During guided meditation, you have someone guiding you through the exercise – thus the name. There are a lot of apps online, so try a few and find the one you prefer. It’s more of a personal choice.
If you’re looking for a recommendation, I use Headspace and I really like it.
Eliminating Useless Things From Your Life
This is something I learned from “The 4-hour workweek”, which I believe everyone should read at least once in their life. I love this book!
Get rid of extra stuff. Clean your room/house. We keep holding onto a lot of useless stuff – who knows why? Last time I cleaned my desk I found some clothes tags in the drawer. They were beautiful and I had liked them so I had kept them. WHERE WOULD I EVER USE THEM? Nowhere.
Things like these fill our house and our lives. So get a handful of bags and check everything in your house. If you don’t use them in some way, throw them away. If you have the time, sell them. Otherwise, give them away (Let’s take care of the environment, too. After all, we live in it!). If some of them are in good condition, you may want to consider giving them to a friend.
You’ll end up with:
- more room for other stuff
- fewer things to clean out
- maybe some more money
Take a break and go for a walk. Get a notebook and a pen with you and if possible, leave your phone at home or at least put it on silent mode.
Now, sit down somewhere – the farther from your house, the better. Take a breath and for 5 minutes, just write everything you want to do in your life.
- What do you want to have?
- What do you want to do?
- Where do you want to go?
After finishing, look at your list and prioritise. Choose the 3 most important things that you really want to do. For example, last time I made my list, I wrote that I wanted to learn to sing. And I still do. But it was a priority for me to start my own business. So I decided that I’d leave singing for later.
Now, make a plan about how you can get closer to your goals in the next 6 months. Create small steps you can follow each day to be a little bit closer. Each step shouldn’t take more than 30 minutes.
Take the first step today! Not tomorrow. Don’t forget that procrastinating is what led you where you are.
Do this every 6-12 months. The more often, the better. Your needs change and routine gets in the way and makes you stray away from your goal. So a reminder every once in a while is a good thing.
Create a routine you can follow every day and write it down. People have a lot in their mind. If you try to remember everything without writing them down, you’ll eventually forget some of them.
Planning your day will help you be more productive during the day without losing precious time wondering what to do next. You’ll just follow orders. Your orders.
Having good eating habits is essential to your well-being. It doesn’t matter how old you are. If you eat junk food, you may not have health problems while you’re young, but you also won’t be as healthy as you can be.
And you definitely won’t have the energy you can get from better food. You’ll be tired, and you’ll have no idea why. I mean, you have eaten, then what’s the problem?
Well, eating and eating well is different things. If what you eat is 99% useless to your body, then you haven’t given to your body anything to run on. Its batteries will run low.
Your brain is working 24 hours a day, all year round. You should give it a little time to rest.
We don’t think that much about sleeping and we definitely should do this more. I get it, sleeping isn’t that much fun. It’s boring and you could do better things instead of sleeping.
But it’s necessary. Sleeping is an active process, it’s not just staying on a bed for 8 hours. Your body needs to properly rest, so try to get as much sleep as you need. Sleep early enough so you won’t have to wake up with an alarm clock. Let your body wake up on its own.
Don’t underestimate the benefits of a good workout!
- It keeps you fit and strong.
- It’s a let out for all the anger you have accumulated throughout the day.
- It lowers your stress levels.
- It helps you sleep better.
- It helps you think more clearly.
Do you like your job?
If yes, then devote more time to it to advance your career. If not, find a way to escape 9 to 5 and build your own business.
Anything in between fills you with huge amounts of stress. I know that it’s difficult to change a job – let alone a career. But if the change is for the best, it has to be done.
Now, that’s a sensitive subject. Each family is different. You could be raised up by the best person in the world or the worst person in the world. Usually, it’s someone in between.
Under normal circumstances, I’d suggest you have at least a decent relationship with your family. It’s good for your mental health and if something goes wrong, they’re usually the ones to help you to stand up back on your feet.
But if they’re toxic, you have to limit their influence in your life. I know it’s hard but it’s something that needs to be done. I’m not saying to never talk to them again. Just to limit the damage they do to your mental health.
Friends are the family we choose. So keep a few good and close friends. Of course, you can have a lot of people whom you hang out with. But choose a few of them that are the closest to you and make them a priority.
You can’t be in more than one place at a time and if your friends see that you’re not there when they need you, they may not be there for you when you need them.
And let’s not kid ourselves. Of course, we need friends in our life. Plus, it’s more fun to live life with others!
There a lot of people out there who need your help. And I can guarantee you’ll feel incredibly well the first time you’ll help someone without waiting for something in return.
Ιf you think about making a change in your life, volunteering – especially abroad – is a great opportunity. You get to travel, meet new people – volunteers and locals – and work on something different! Also, something you may not know if you’ve never volunteered before, it’s that, since people want to be there and they don’t just tolerate their job because they get paid for it, you’ll end up having a terrific time!
First, grab a notepad. (Not the one you use for the grocery list!) Writing stuff in a paper is way more powerful than writing them on a laptop. It just works better.
That’s the one I’ll use today. >>
Oh… I didn’t tell you. I’ll be doing it along with you!
First, I need to do it now anyway, because I need a change right now.
Second, because it helps me to know that I don’t do it alone. 😀
Extra things you may like to try
In Tim Ferriss’s “The 4-hour work week“, he talks about dreamlining.
Even if you don’t feel like reading his book – I love the book, so I recommend it – you can check out his blog.
Doing this once every 6 months is quite nice. It gives you perspective on what you really want and how to get started.
It helps to actually see your goals instead of just thinking about them.
Get a piece of poster board in your favourite colour and any old magazines you have and cut images that represent your goals.
Then put it on the wall opposite the bed so that you can see it every morning when you wake up.
Do the things you LOVE
One of the things I love is reading. But a few years ago, I thought that I should stop reading until I can afford to buy books easily without stressing over the price, and until I had enough time.
I can’t believe how stupid I was. Like I couldn’t borrow books from the library as I did when I was younger. Or I couldn’t reduce the time I’m watching TV while resting…
The future is created by what you do today, not tomorrow.
So don’t stop postponing things you love doing or things that will help you get what you want in your life.
That’s an ad by Nike, but I really like the message:
Get rid of useless things
Most of us keep a ridiculous amount of things in our place. And most of them are useless things. Things we don’t use anymore or things we have never even used – and we probably won’t be using ever.
But still, we keep them.
Well, I recommend you to invest the next few days, go through your stuff and get rid of the things you don’t use. You can sell them, or donate them.
First, you’ll have more available space and second, you’ll have fewer things to clean.
Check out these videos with tips on how to declutter your house:
I’m not a fan of throwing away sentimental items, so any sentimental things you want to keep no matter what, but you don’t need on a daily basis, put them in boxes – don’t forget to label them – and put them away in your storage room/ attic/ basement or under your bed, if you don’t have one.
Now for the rest, a good way to reduce the clutter is to throw away 5 things every day.
Why that’s a great way to reduce clutter
- It doesn’t take a lot of time every day – only a couple of minutes.
- Choosing 5 things every day gives you the chance to realise that these 5 things are really useless to you.
When you have to compare them with all the other stuff that are literally trash, it’s not that obvious that these 5 things are useless to you. But when you have to compare them with more useful stuff, suddenly, you realise that they just take up space. Space you can use more productively.
I throw away 5 things every day. Why…? First, it helps to have less clutter your house. Second, you have more available space – and fewer things to clean.
Here are some things that helped me change my mindset:
- Charisma On Command
- The 4-Hour Work Week
- Wealthy Affiliate
Charisma On Command
I learned about this Youtube Channel because of a friend of mine – thanks, Hope! – who sent me the link. She knew I’d be interested in it because I was getting interested in self-improvement. Charisma On Command is a great Youtube channel that has tips for making you more charismatic. I leave my favourite below and you can be the judge of it.
6 Mindsets That Will Make You Magnetic (Animated)
How To Make Yourself Immune To Social Pressure
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The 4-Hour Work Week
An incredible book written by Tim Ferriss. The guy is a genius on life improvement. His book actually changed my life, by changing my mindset.
I learned about this from Charlie, the guy who does most of the speaking on Charisma on Command. He’s a big fan of this book so I thought to give it a try. Never regretted it!
Wealthy Affiliate is an online platform that has training on starting your online business. Which sounds terrifying – I remember – and complicated. But if you’re thinking about starting something on your own, I’d say to give it a chance.
The training is very detailed and you’ll get a lot of support from the other members. You can ask questions to them and since they’ve been on it longer, they can help you. I’m a member for over a year and I’ve never regretted my choice. I love helping others, after all.
A heads-up though!
Wealthy Affiliate helps you build a real business. It’s not a scam so what they offer isn’t an overnight success. Don’t expect to be rich in a couple of days. It’ll take time to build your business, but if you don’t give up, you will succeed.
Here is my guide on rebooting your life. As I said, this is just the beginning. You’ll have to work a lot on these, but it’s worth it!
Let me know how it works for you and, if you have any questions, I’d be happy to answer! Any suggestions are always welcome, so tell me about topics you’d like me to write.
And if you liked this, check out more articles on improving your life.
See you next time!