I know how you feel. I was where you are until a few months ago. I was tired with my life because I was watching it passing by. I wasn’t doing what I wanted; I just waited for the “right” time.
Well, guess what? I found out that there is no “right” time. You start doing what you want and that time becomes the right time.
Let me give you a heads up! Rebooting your life is going to be like falling off a bike: painful and embarrassing! You’ll have to check every aspect of your life and some of it will be total rubbish. But remember: “It’s the darkest before the dawn”. Still, the dawn is worth it!
So let me show you how to reboot your life. Before I start, though, I’ll talk first about a couple of conditions to make this work:
I’ll start with the most important step: The MINDSET.
Maybe it sounds just like a fancy word, but it’s NOT. I can’t explain how important it is but I’ll try anyway. You can’t change who you are unless you are ready to. I know, I’ve tried!!!
First, you need to change, and then everything else will change.
So take a deep breath, hold it and when you let it out, let also anything that drags you down. Anything, everything!
It’ll take time. The beginning is now, but it’ll take months to make this work. You’re a work in progress and this is an important milestone. But it’s not a switch; it’s not a button. You can’t just click and get the life you want. You’ll have to work to get it.
And that’s the great part! Because if we didn’t have to work for important things, if they were just given to us, then they wouldn’t be important.
So which are the basic sectors of our lives?
- The relationship we have with ourselves
- Personal Development
- The relationships we have with others
Now comes the hard part. You’ll have to evaluate your life and decide what you want to keep and what you want to throw out.
Don’t forget that you’ll lose a lot of people in your life. But your self will always be there with you, so this is the most important relationship you’ll ever have in your life. Take care of it!
Let’s start with the physical stuff:
Having good eating habits is essential to your well-being. It doesn’t matter how old you are. If you eat junk food, you may not have health problems while you’re young, but you also won’t be as healthy as you can be.
And you definitely won’t have the energy you can get from better food. You’ll be tired, and you’ll have no idea why. I mean, you have eaten, then what’s the problem?
Well, eating and eating well is different things. If what you eat is 99% useless to your body, then you haven’t given to your body anything to run on. Its batteries will run low.
Your brain is working 24 hours a day, all year round. You should give it a little time to rest.
We don’t think that much about sleeping and we definitely should do this more. I get it, sleeping isn’t that much fun. It’s boring and you could do better things instead of sleeping.
But it’s necessary. Sleeping is an active process, it’s not just staying on a bed for 8 hours. Your body needs to properly rest, so try to get as much sleep as you need. Sleep early enough so you won’t have to wake up with an alarm clock. Let your body wake up on its own.
Don’t underestimate the benefits of a good workout!
- It keeps you fit and strong.
- It’s a let out for all the anger you have accumulated throughout the day.
- It lowers your stress levels.
- It helps you sleep better.
- It helps you think more clearly.
Let’s move on to the mental side now:
Keeping A Journal
I know it doesn’t sound that important, but it is. Again, it’s a let out for every messed up thing that happened during the day.
Go to a bookstore and buy a journal you like. Or if you don’t want to pay for one, just get a notebook and keep it only as a journal. Writing in a journal daily has a lot of benefits that you’ll discover while writing.
I used to believe that it doesn’t work, but I was so wrong! Give it a chance and you’ll see that you’ll feel calmer.
Start with guided meditation; I believe it’s more effective for beginners – judging from my experience. During guided meditation, you have someone guiding you through the exercise – thus the name. There are a lot of apps online, so try a few and find the one you prefer. It’s more of a personal choice.
If you’re looking for a recommendation, I use Headspace and I really like it.
Eliminating Useless Things From Your Life
This is something I learned from “The 4-hour workweek”, which I believe everyone should read at least once in their life. I love this book!
Get rid of extra stuff. Clean your room/house. We keep holding onto a lot of useless stuff – who knows why? Last time I cleaned my desk I found some clothes tags in the drawer. They were beautiful and I had liked them so I had kept them. WHERE WOULD I EVER USE THEM? Nowhere.
Things like these fill our house and our lives. So get a handful of bags and check everything in your house. If you don’t use them in some way, throw them away. If you have the time, sell them. Otherwise, give them away (Let’s take care of the environment, too. After all, we live in it!). If some of them are in good condition, you may want to consider giving them to a friend.
You’ll end up with:
- more room for other stuff
- fewer things to clean out
- maybe some more money
Take a break and go for a walk. Get a notebook and a pen with you and if possible, leave your phone at home or at least put it on silent mode.
Now, sit down somewhere – the farther from your house, the better. Take a breath and for 5 minutes, just write everything you want to do in your life.
- What do you want to have?
- What do you want to do?
- Where do you want to go?
After finishing, look at your list and prioritise. Choose the 3 most important things that you really want to do. For example, last time I made my list, I wrote that I wanted to learn to sing. And I still do. But it was a priority for me to start my own business. So I decided that I’d leave singing for later.
Now, make a plan about how you can get closer to your goals in the next 6 months. Create small steps you can follow each day to be a little bit closer. Each step shouldn’t take more than 30 minutes.
Take the first step today! Not tomorrow. Don’t forget that procrastinating is what led you where you are.
Do this every 6-12 months. The more often, the better. Your needs change and routine gets in the way and makes you stray away from your goal. So a reminder every once in a while is a good thing.
Create a routine you can follow every day and write it down. People have a lot in their mind. If you try to remember everything without writing them down, you’ll eventually forget some of them.
Planning your day will help you be more productive during the day without losing precious time wondering what to do next. You’ll just follow orders. Your orders.
Do you like your job?
If yes, then devote more time to it to advance your career. If not, find a way to escape 9 to 5 and build your own business.
Anything in between fills you with huge amounts of stress. I know that it’s difficult to change a job – let alone a career. But if the change is for the best, it has to be done.
Now, that’s a sensitive subject. Each family is different. You could be raised up by the best person in the world or the worst person in the world. Usually, it’s someone in between.
Under normal circumstances, I’d suggest you have at least a decent relationship with your family. It’s good for your mental health and if something goes wrong, they’re usually the ones to help you to stand up back on your feet.
But if they’re toxic, you have to limit their influence in your life. I know it’s hard but it’s something that needs to be done. I’m not saying to never talk to them again. Just to limit the damage they do to your mental health.
Friends are the family we choose. So keep a few good and close friends. Of course, you can have a lot of people whom you hang out with. But choose a few of them that are the closest to you and make them a priority.
You can’t be in more than one place at a time and if your friends see that you’re not there when they need you, they may not be there for you when you need them.
And let’s not kid ourselves. Of course, we need friends in our life. Plus, it’s more fun to live life with others!
There a lot of people out there who need your help. And I can guarantee you’ll feel incredibly well the first time you’ll help someone without waiting for something in return.
Ιf you think about making a change in your life, volunteering – especially abroad – is a great opportunity. You get to travel, meet new people – volunteers and locals – and work on something different! Also, something you may not know if you’ve never volunteered before, it’s that, since people want to be there and they don’t just tolerate their job because they get paid for it, you’ll end up having a terrific time!
Here are some things that helped me change my mindset:
- Charisma On Command
- The 4-Hour Work Week
- Wealthy Affiliate
Charisma On Command
I learned about this Youtube Channel because of a friend of mine – thanks, Hope! – who sent me the link. She knew I’d be interested in it because I was getting interested in self-improvement. Charisma On Command is a great Youtube channel that has tips for making you more charismatic. I leave my favourite below and you can be the judge of it.
6 Mindsets That Will Make You Magnetic (Animated)
How To Make Yourself Immune To Social Pressure
6 Ways To Massively Increase Productivity
The 4-Hour Work Week
An incredible book written by Tim Ferriss. The guy is a genius on life improvement. His book actually changed my life, by changing my mindset.
I learned about this from Charlie, the guy who does most of the speaking on Charisma on Command. He’s a big fan of this book so I thought to give it a try. Never regretted it!
Wealthy Affiliate is an online platform that has training on starting your online business. Which sounds terrifying – I remember – and complicated. But if you’re thinking about starting something on your own, I’d say to give it a chance.
The training is very detailed and you’ll get a lot of support from the other members. You can ask questions to them and since they’ve been on it longer, they can help you. I’m a member for over a year and I’ve never regretted my choice. I love helping others, after all.
A heads-up though!
Wealthy Affiliate helps you build a real business. It’s not a scam so what they offer isn’t an overnight success. Don’t expect to be rich in a couple of days. It’ll take time to build your business, but if you don’t give up, you will succeed.
Here is my guide on rebooting your life. As I said, this is just the beginning. You’ll have to work a lot on these, but it’s worth it!
Let me know how it works for you and, if you have any questions, I’d be happy to answer! Any suggestions are always welcome, so tell me about topics you’d like me to write.
And if you liked this, check out more articles on improving your life.
See you next time!